Etiquette is known as the rules of finesse and respect that must be followed in order to establish a positive and level relationship within the community. This concept, formerly known as ‘’Adab-ı Muaseret’’ (etiquette) rules in old Turkish and today as the etiquette, aims to provide a more peaceful and happier life for the members of society. These rules determine how to behave among people no matter where they are, at holidays, at work, at weddings, on the street or wherever. The etiquette, which can vary according to the beliefs, economic power, education and customs of the societies, are shaped according to the structure of each society and reflect the moral rules, understanding and culture. People who refuse to obey etiquette are warned, condemned and excluded in the society on the grounds that they do not respect them. People who follow the rules that are effective in the formation of the interpersonal order are called as kind, respectful and good manners. Here are etiquette specific to the Turkish people…
In Turkish families, the father is seen as the head of the household. Fathers' decisions must be followed. If there is a grandfather and grandmother who live in the house, they are asked for their ideas before they have great respect for their respect without fail. Mother, the person who deserves the greatest respect in the house, is seen as responsible for the internal order of the house. The focus is on the upbringing of children and their education in Turkish families. Among the most important etiquette are respect for the elders, compassion and affection for the little ones. The children who obey the rules of etiquette in the house are respectful and restrained with the elders, do not interfere with their words and they don't enter their parents' bedrooms without permission.
When the Turkish people enter a place or meet someone, Selamun Aleykum (peace be with you), that is, peace is on you, says no evil comes from me. In response, Aleykumselam in other words, the answer is taken on the greetings of Allah (God). Receiving the greetings of the person who gives the salute is considered to be one of the important etiquette unique to the Turkish people. There are many forms of greetings in Turkish such as welcome, thank you, hello, good day. There are some rules to be followed when saluting. These are;
-Avoiding exaggerated behavior during greeting
- Greeting before the landlord in the invited place.
- When shaking hands with distant people, do not to shake them in a way that hurts.
- At the first meeting or greeting, the man should wait for the woman to reach out.
- The young one has to greet the old, the junior to senior, the person who goes there, and the person who comes in must first greet those who are in the space.
It is also the etiquette that people who know each other stand on the edge in a way that does not prevent passers-by during the encounter or farewell.
During social relations, the status of individuals plays an important role in determining the way they appeal. If individuals are the same age, they can call each other, family members or relatives with their names or ’’ you ’’. The new person is used to express ’’ gentlemen, lady, you ’’. It is expected that some rules of etiquette will be respected among the society.
- Avoiding harsh expressions and slang words.
- Keeping the person who you meet newly at a distance.
- Don't speak loud and fast.
- Using a language appropriate to the cultural level of the other person during the conversation and to avoid humiliation.
- Don't say bad words about people who are not present in the community.
- Avoiding misunderstanding is among the etiquette specific to Turkish.
Speak to someone on the phone
People who live in distant cities and relatives and friends in different cities, increases the number of phone calls. There are some etiquette that should be considered in this form of communication which can be established quite frequently.
- Avoiding call before 10:00 in the morning and after 22:00 in the evening, except in case of emergency.
- You should not disturb the person who does not pick up the phone by calling more than two times.
- Muting the phone in activities such as cinema, theater and meetings.
- Don’t shouting during communication by phone
- One of these rules is that the caller begins to speak by greeting and introducing himself and making good wishes in closing.
The dress is seen as one of the most striking items in society. A man of good manners is expected to dress heavily, tastefully and appropriately.
- Choosing clothes suitable for the person's gender, age and physical structure.
- Avoid wearing unironed, torn and sloppy clothes.
- Choice of simple, suitable clothing for the profession at work.
- Proper and attentive dressing during guest reception.
- Choosing clothes in places such as hotels, gyms or holiday resorts that will not disturb other people.
- It is among the etiquette of the Turkish people to wear it to respect and adapt to the culture of the region.
Visiting (House Guest)
The Turkish people inform the landlord before going to the hospitality and ask if they need anything. When you visit, you should buy a gift and should not to go empty-handedly. This is also among etiquette. It is a shame that the door is knocked more than two times without waiting. The ware is not touched at home without permission. The hospitality is kept short and the host is sure to go ’'welcome us’' ’is called.
In addition to these, among the etiquette unique to the Turkish people.
- Avoid interrupting the speaker.
- give water, which is younger, among who is thirsty.
- To avoid talking loudly, laughing and sitting in an uncomfortable way while traveling in public transport, not listening to loud music with headphones, providing a place for elderly people to sit.
- Using a fork knife while eating, take care to eat slowly and without sound.
- Apologize for any unintentional damage to a person.
- Leave speakers alone who talk private things.
- Not making inappropriate verbal and hand jokes is also seen as very important socially.